Party Etiquette: for Guests

Holiday Season has begun! Parties will be poppin’ up left, right, and centre! And we all know you are oh so popular! Juggling all the invites, scheduling, and RSVP-ing can knock you off your game! It gives me flashbacks to when my mother would drive me over to a friend’s house while running down her list of manners reminders. Aside for your basic “please” & “thank yous” here are some other tips you will NOT want to forget!

RSVP – This small gesture is a serious matter! Be polite and always tell the host whether or not you are attending the party. Don’t wait last minute to notify the party host, instead, let them know as soon as possible. Please RSVP in the ways indicated on the invitations.

Be On Time – The host invited you for a certain time for a reason. So come on time! NEVER come early!! If you have a previous engagement, such as coming from another party, and are going to be late, ensure the host is aware. It’s not only important for the host to know if they are expecting you, they also need to know WHEN.

Be Gracious – Call ahead of time and ask the host what you can bring. If they say nothing, you should still bring something.  Try a bottle of wine or some chocolates or a small personal gift for the host.

Help Out – Offer to help the host with some of tasks in a timely manner. It is a good gesture from a good guest. If you see a frantic or overwhelmed host, offer your assistance. Never linger in busy areas trying to be the hero. You are just another obstacle to get around. If your help isn’t needed, go along your merry way. Just make sure your clean up after yourself. Don't leave your used napkin laying around on the couch, it's gross and you are completely capable of throwing it out in the garbage.

Don't Be Greedy – Don’t empty out the serving plates, leave some for the other guests. After everyone has taken food and drinks, then you can go back for seconds. This goes for anything else being offered to you. We learned this in kindergarten. Sharing is caring.

You Are NOT Home – When the host says, “make yourself at home” does not mean you should actually act like you ARE home. Do not ask for the internet password or play around with the party playlist or change the channel on the TV. You should also NEVER snoop around. Don't be THAT sketchy guest. These things are out of bounds for guests unless otherwise offered. 

Don't Be High Maintenance – You may think that answering “whatever” when the hosts asks you what you want to drink is low maintenance. It’s actually not. It’s much easier for the host if you actually tell them what you want rather than having them do the guess work.  If you really don’t know, say you are okay without until you think of something you actually want. Generally speaking don't be too fussy.

Participate – A polite guest is always willing to take part in the party. Whether it’s karaoke or being the receptive audience to their Summer in Europe slide show, engage yourself. Mingle with people. Don’t know how? Start by introducing yourself. But stay clear of off limit topics like politics, religious beliefs, salaries, or how much the car/house cost.

Get Out! – Don’t overstay your welcome. Look for cues that your host is getting tired.  They may have a last call for drinks or they may be yawning or telling you how early they have to get up tomorrow. Take the hint and high tail it outta there!

Thank The Host – Always remember to thank the host.  After all, they have accommodated you all night.  Send a thank you card. This kind gesture is to show your appreciation for the hospitality.